One hypothesis leads to another hypothesis; we jump to conclusions, and we take our story very personally. Then we blame other people, and we usually start clapping to try to justify our assumptions. Of course, applause distorts a distorted message. It helped me pay attention to times when I feel angry or hurt by a comment someone made to me. It helped me realize how many assumptions I make each day and how I can prevent them if I catch them. “In the whole war of control between people, it`s about making assumptions and taking things in person.” The four chords, Chapter 4 Focus your attention on your assumptions. Trying to read a person`s mind, looking for the meaning of what someone is doing/saying or not getting the answer you expect, are all good clues. Every time you take a hypothesis yourself, write it down in your diary. Here too, it is important to do so without judgment. In this exercise, it`s about increasing your awareness, so don`t mess with the assumptions you make; It is a model that you have developed for many years.
“Making assumptions in our relationships is really a problem. We often assume that our partners know what we think and that we do not need to say what we want. We expect them to do what we want, because they know us so well. If they don`t do what we accept, we feel so hurt and say, “You should have known.” We can make all kinds of assumptions because we often do not have the courage to ask direct questions. Instead, ask the intelligent questions that lead to the truth and avoid the drama of acceptance. Clarity in our communication, the use of our logical human brain is the key to dispelling the toxic nature of vapors in our hypotheses. Don Miguel is forcefully aware that the questions make things a little clearer and reduce the likelihood of future misunderstandings. Asking questions is like a ray of light in a dark cave – it gives you a sense of direction and it takes you out of the darkness.
Asking questions helps everyone to go the same way, because we all live on assumptions. “We tend to make assumptions about everything. The problem with the hypothesis is that we think they are the truth. One could swear that they are real. We make assumptions about what others do or think – we take it personally – and we blame and react by sending emotional poison with our word. That is why we ask for problems every time we make assumptions. We assume that we misunderstand, that we take it personally, and that we will eventually create a great drama for nothing. “We assume that everyone sees life the way we do. We assume that others think the way we think, feel what we feel, judge how we judge, and abuse the way we abuse. That`s the biggest assumption people make. That`s why we`re afraid to gather around others. Because we believe that all others judge us, shake us, abuse us and accuse us, as we do ourselves. Even before others had the opportunity to refuse us, we have already rejected each other.
This is how the human spirit works. Worse still, the pen on the acceptance hand grenade is often shot at ourselves. I`ve never been able to do that! Probably the biggest and most limited hypothesis we can make. How many times deny a new experience? I would never appreciate it, our inner adopted voice is bright, stimulated by chimp. If, of course, we have only allowed positive influences in our library that tell us otherwise. The fourth agreement allows readers to have a better understanding of the progress made in achieving their goals in life. This agreement involves the integration of the first three agreements into daily life and the exploitation of its own potential.  It is a matter of doing the best that can be managed individually, which varies from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter.