If you like the job or the job you do, you will do your best without even trying. Your work will feel effortless and you will get much better results. This final agreement will help you increase the power of other agreements while stripping yourself of old patterns. “The Four Accords” not only gave me the four chords by which I made small positive changes in my life, but the book also helped me understand the process of “domestication” and how this “Domest” shaped my belief systems. One of my colleagues has a piece of paper on the four agreements at her office. The four agreements are a reminder of their integrity, self-esteem and peace. The idea is to move from limiting convictions to agreements that support and strengthen your personal freedom. Based on all these ideas, Don Miguel has launched four clear messages to implement. We have all reached a series of agreements on how we will lead the lives. We have agreements with our friends, our partners, our parents, our children, with our God, with society at large.
And of course, the most important agreements are those we have made with ourselves. All these agreements we have concluded guide our “personality”: they tell us who we are, how we feel, what we believe and how we behave. However, in most cases, all of these agreements were never deliberately chosen. Ruiz says that, like farm animals, we have been “domesticated” since childhood – we have been punished or rewarded based on what we have done or not, and that has shaped us to become who we are today. This book shows us that it is possible to break some of the old “agreements” that no longer serve us, and instead to create new agreements that we consciously choose and maintain day after day. Whatever your own agreements, Ruiz suggests that we should (based on Toltec`s wisdom) conclude all the following four agreements. His posts among the first two can be summed up as follows: “Be aware of the chords that dictate your reality and have the discipline to change it.” You could get a little more out of his writing, but not much. Unfortunately, its indications do not go far beyond a well-designed “Just do it”.
These chains are developed from an early age. We are born into social norms that dictate the dreams we can have in life. The collective dream of the planet influences our individual dreams. This collective dream is taught to us by our parents, our schools, our religions and our politicians. It is through this training that we learn how to behave “properly,” what we should believe, and the difference between right and wrong. Our acceptance of these social agreements should be characterized as our domestication. When we wanted to revolt in childhood or adolescence, we were punished and oppressed by more powerful parents and teachers. Just like an animal, we have been rewarded by obeying these more powerful individuals.
Afterwards, we surrendered and decided to follow the collective dream and not our individual dreams. But as we get older, we no longer need a more powerful person to domesticate and control us. These ideas are so integrated that we self-domestic. Don Miguel proposes that we can free ourselves from this structure and establish new agreements for us. These are the four agreements. I have to say, buddy, I`ve heard great things about this book. It is definitely to read on my list of books this year. I love the simplified chords you`ve shared here.